Huge hugs. It is so hard when your choices (or not, in your case) are questioned. Good for you for being prepared and researching. Did you know that goat milk formula is available, btw? Not easy to get, but someone makes it. You obviously know more about the condition than you "care" providers and that probably intimidates them, so they resort to bullying. (I know this may not be the case, just speaking from my experience here.)

FWIW (and I don't know if you want to hear it but will share anyway) I have small breasts (barely an A cup) which grew in pregnancy to be... just over an A cup! I didn't even fit in the B cup maty bras, which were the smallest I could get. Yet I managed to BF, so huge breast growth isn't the be-all and end-all. However, some did try to worry me over the fact my breasts were too small to produce milk and I should just use formula, so I understand the pressure, albeit from a different direction.